Sunday, June 7, 2009

Love and Marriage

This weekend Matt and I went to a wedding. Actually its the first wedding we've gone to as a couple. (big damn deal) Anyway...he was the best man so he was a little busy. We had a really good time, although the day was exhaustingly long, especially for him. Irish Catholic weddings are full of religious and cultural traditions that make me miss church. I miss religion as a whole, and I remember it every time I'm at a religious ceremony. Problem is I'm just not devoted to it. I'm not yet willing to do the work it takes. Whatever. Anyway, it was nice to see those traditions. And Irish Catholics certainly know how to throw a good party. Cajun food + lots of booze + 40 year old women out on the dance floor = an entertaining and delicious evening. What more does a wedding need besides delicious food, some beer, and a dance floor? Oh maybe a cake too. It was very relaxed and enjoyable. Surprisingly Matt and I were only asked once if we were married. I thought it would be more with all the socializing outside of the fraternity. I guess its a good thing. 
I like weddings. I like watching people on that day, not just the bride and groom, but their friends, their parents, their families. I want to get married, but furthermore I want to have a wedding because I want to spend that day with my friends doing the things married people do. I want my closest friends to be at the front with me watching me get married. I want to take pictures with the people closest to me. I want it to be fun. Most of all I just want to do these things with people I care about. I want to share in the experience with my friends and family. I think weddings are self centered but not in a bad way. Its a celebration of your relationship. Just like your birthday, people are there to join you in celebrating something. Although I think your wedding is more important than a birthday, a wedding anniversary is not as important to everyone else as your birthday is. Back to the point. I definitely want to have a wedding. At some point, not in the near future. I always told myself that I wouldn't get married before I graduate with my bachelors. I had to wait until at least grad school. Well, even waiting until after I have my bachelors seems too soon. 

In completely UNRELATED news....
Its been one year. One full official year. Its not to the day or anything, our anniversary is a mild controversy in relationship etiquette. When does it count anyway? I claim the month of june. The day doesn't really matter does it? I don't know the date anyway, we kind of slid into it so I only remember the month.




Anyway.. we've made it a year. Without a break up or break down, at least not the way it was during the first year. lol. Its kind of amazing the places you never thought you would be. That moment when you realize thats where you are, its almost scary. Its never as easy as you think but somehow, it's a richer, fuller experience than you'd ever anticipate.




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